Don't Let Family Drama get in the way of Your Wedding

We all have it. Family drama is par for the course these days, but that doesn’t mean that it needs to take the focus off of you and your wedding day. In fact you should expect your family to be on their best behavior during your wedding.

It doesn’t matter what the drama might be, your family has an obligation to you on your wedding day to treat you as The Most Beautiful Bride. Because guess what, YOU ARE! Your wedding deserves to be a day of celebration and love, not bickering and heartache. But what do you do about those pesky family members that can’t seem to think about anyone else but themselves?

Talk to them before the wedding.

The best thing to do is to talk to them before the wedding day ever arrives. Sit down with them, or call them up on the phone and just be frank and candid with them. Empathize with them that you understand where they are coming from and that so-and-so is wrong, but that you would appreciate a day of peace and mutual agreement not to bring up that specific topic that throws them into a rabbit hole. The trick here is to empathize with both parties and get them to make peace for 24-48 hours so that they can enjoy your wedding.

Don’t invite them to the wedding.

If you know that talking with them is pointless because they just can’t seem to think about anyone other than themselves, then tell them they won’t be invited to the wedding. This gets tricky when its a really close family member, but stick to your guns longer than them and persuade them to see reason for 24 hours.

Threaten to not get them a Christmas or Birthday gift.

This is more of a sarcastic way to tell them not to make a scene at the wedding. Who would trade a gift for an argument that means absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of things. (If the person in question is a Mom or Dad, then threaten to withhold having kids. That seems to work most of the time.)

Have someone with a strong backbone be your muscle.

So, if all of the above have failed and they show up to the wedding and start making a scene, as the Bride, you should be the last one to deal with it. Have a friend or cousin or sibling that can stand their own deal with it. Be sure to talk with this person before the wedding to prepare them that they may have to do this. It never hurts to have someone assigned for this very thing even if all your relatives are normal human beings that enjoy others. There’s bound to be something to happen on your wedding day.

Your job is to enjoy every minute of your day. That’s your responsibility. Make sure that your photographer is in the know as well to any sort of family drama or possible bickering’s so that they can be on the look out for it as well.

My job as a wedding photographer is more than just taking pictures and capturing memories, it’s also to give you a stress free day. If you are interested in having a stress free day I would love to chat with you more about how I can help make that a reality, just click the button below and fill out the form and I will reach out to you soon. I look forward to chatting with you soon.



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